What is Considered Free Mixing?

Men and women are permitted to be in the same place. (i.e. shops, streets etc)

Men and women should avoid situations where they are crowded together or seated together.

Repetitive acquaintance should be avoided to prevent familiarity.

Business like discussion between man and woman is permissible when necessary.

Why is it Like This?

Prevention of intimate relationships developing outside of marriage.

Prevention of gossip and slander that can destroy relationships and families.

Prevention of one party “falling in love” and being hurt.

Prevention of children being born outside of marriage.

Prevention of families being broken up.

The Evidence

Allah says: “And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse” (Qur’an 17:32)

Allah says:

“Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision [looking only at what is lawful and averting their eyes from what is unlawful] and guard their private parts [from being seen and from unlawful acts]. That is purer for them.” (Qur’an 24:30)

And He says: 

“And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision [looking only at what is lawful and averting their eyes from what is unlawful] and guard their private parts… (Qur’an 24:31)

Allah also says:

“And when you ask [the Prophet’s wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition [or screen]. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts. (Qur’an 33:53)


The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) forbade men and women from being alone together. He said: “Never is a man alone with a woman except that Satan is the third party with them.” (Saheeh Muslim)

Narrated ‘Uqba bin ‘Amir: The Messenger of Allah (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) said, “Beware of entering upon the ladies.” A man from The Ansar said, “O Allah’s Messenger! What about Al-Hamu, the in-laws of the wife (The brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.)?” The Prophet replied: “The in-laws of the wife are death itself”. (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)

The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) also said: “It is better for one of you to be pierced by a steel pin in his head than to touch the hand of a strange woman.” (Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabir (20/213), Ibn Abi Shaybah in Al-Musannaf (4/341) and the narrators were declared trustworthy by Al-Haytami and Al-Mundhiri)

Allah says:

“If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet [or be moved with desire], but speak with appropriate speech. [Qur’an 33:32]

The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then goes and passes by some men to let them find her scent is a type of adulteress.” (Musnad Ahmad, Tirmidhi)

Umm Salamah said: “When the Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) completed the prayer, the women would get up to leave. He would then wait awhile before standing.” Ibn Shahab said: “I believe that he waited for a while to give the women an opportunity to depart before the men.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
It was related in Al-Bukhari that women at the time of the Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) did not circumambulate the Ka’bah along with the men. ‘A’ishah used to go around the Ka’bah at a good distance from the men and avoided mixing with them. Once another woman bade to her to go forward with her so they could touch the corner of the Ka’bah. ‘A’ishah refused to do so. (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)

One of ‘A’ishah’s handmaidens came to her and said: “O Mother of believers, I went around the Kaabah seven times and touched the corner twice or trice”. ‘A’ishah replied: “May Allah not reward you for pushing your way through men. It would have been sufficient for you to you to say “Allahu Akbar” as you passed by”. (Musnad al-Shafi’i)

Punishment For Zina (Fornication or Adultery)

In This Life

Fornication is 100 Lashes

“The [unmarried] women or [unmarried] man found guilty of illicit sexual intercourse* – lash each one of them with a hundred lashes**, and do not be taken by pity for them in the religion [i.e. law] of Allah***, if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a group of the believers witness their punishment.” (Qur’an 24:2)

*Either by voluntary confession of the offender or the testimony of 4 male witnesses to having actually seen the act take place. Otherwise there can be no conviction.

**The ruling in this verse is applicable to unmarried fornicators. Execution by stoning is confirmed in the sunnah for convicted married adulterers.

*** Meaning: Do not let sympathy for a guilty person move you to alter anything ordained by Allah, for in His law is protection of society as a whole.

Adultery is Death

The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “It is not permitted to shed the blood of any Muslim …. Except in three cases: a soul for a soul, the married person who commits adultery, and the one who forsakes his religion…” [Bukhari and Muslim]

In The Hereafter

The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “On the Day of Resurrection, Allah will not speak to nor look at nor purify three types of people: an old man who commits Zina, a lying king and a vainglorious poor person….” (Reported by Muslim with similar wording)

The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “We went on and arrived near a pit which was like and oven, out of which we could hear cries. We glanced into it and saw naked men and women, who cried out when the flames reached them from below”. I asked: ‘Who are these, O Gabriel?’ He replied, ‘Males and females who have committed fornication.'” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)


The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “The man who has laid his hand with lust on a woman who is not permissible to him will come on the Day of Judgment with his hand tied to his neck. If he kissed her, his lips will be cut in the Fire, and if he had sexual intercourse with her, his private parts will speak against him in the Day of Judgment saying: ‘I did what was forbidden.’ Allah Most High will look at him with anger, and the flesh on his face will sag and he will look haggard and old. He will say: ‘What did I do?’ His tongue will witness against him saying, ‘I said what was forbidden’; his hands will speak and say, ‘We reached for what was forbidden’; each of his feet will say. ‘I went to a forbidden place.’; and his private parts will say, ‘I did it.’ An one of the guardian angels will say, ‘I heard it.’ and the other guardian angel will say, ‘I wrote it,’ and Allah Most High will say, ‘I knew it but I concealed it.’ Then He will say ‘My angels, take him and give him a taste of My punishment. Great is My anger against the man who had so little shame towards Me!'”

Note from Safyiah: I could not find the source of this last hadith. It’s well spread on the internet but no sign of its source. Don’t take it as a saheeh (correct or authentic) hadith until you know it is really so. If anyone knows its source please tell me, inshaAllah. I could find a confirmation from the Qur’an though: “On a Day when their tongues, their hands and their feet will bear witness against them as to what they used to do.” (Qur’an 24:24)


Adapted by: Safyiah Simões

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